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RULE 1 : REACT FIRST OR DIE THINKING

When you are being attacked by the Sabre Toothed Tiger you don’t have time to evaluate if you have your best spear with you or if the terrain is suitable for running away…you just have to react. So the subconscious is designed to act without thinking. To trigger a physical response that will prevent you from getting hurt

Why this doesn’t work in the modern day

These days there are no predators. So we don’t need to trigger a physical reaction to survive. In fact, the risk of being hurt that our subconscious is now using is emotional hurt. And the subconscious is a primitive emotional brat. So a primitive emotional brat is trying to protect us from emotional hurt by making our heart race, our breathing speed up and generally get us ready for Flight, Fight or Freeze.

RULE 2 : IF YOUR PARENTS DON’T LOVE YOU, YOU WILL DIE

If our parents didn’t connect with us in the caveman days then we wouldn’t get fed and we would die. So it was critical that as children we behaved in whatever way was necessary to create the strongest connection with our parents.

Why this doesn’t work in the modern day

Generally, whatever our connection with our parents, we still get fed. Society will ensure we are looked after and not left for the beasties. However caveman rules dictate that as we grow up we do whatever is necessary to please our parents and so every interaction is evaluated to ensure our behaviours don’t mean that our parents love us less. So for example if your mum is having a really bad day and happens to shout at you just at the moment you ask for help with your homework…according to caveman rule you might think “If I ask for help my mother shouts at me, which means if I ask for help she won’t love me. Not being loved means I’ll die so the best solution is to not ask for help anymore”

RULE 3 : IF YOU ARE NOT PART OF THE PACK YOU WILL DIE

Humans are inherently weak in many ways. The best way to survive is to be part of a pack. The pack will protect us as long as we pull our weight. So it’s important to fit in and be part of a pack

Why this doesn’t work in the modern day

We don’t have to fit in to survive. In modern society it is possible to survive without anyone else’s help. And yet the caveman need to fit in means that we are genetically programmed to try and fit in – especially when we are children. Being singled out as different for anything is generally regarded by the subconscious as a bad thing, even if you don’t consciously care. When the subconscious thinks something is threatening your survival it will go into protection mode and do everything it can to try and prevent you from getting hurt. So you may find a constant internal battle going on between what you want and what your brain believes you need to survive

 

Dawn Walton

Dawn Walton

Dawn Walton was born in North Wales in 1972.

She is a happily married mother of one girl and is a full time Cognitive Hypnotherapist with her own practice in Dundee and Aberdeen, Scotland.

She also specialises in using the internet to get the benefits of Cognitive Hypnotherapy to as wide an audience as possible. Using Skype and Facetime for 1-1 conversations, YouTube video clips Dawn is on a mission to remove the geographical boundaries of therapy and make it available to everyone.

Visit her therapy page at www.thinkitchangeit.com


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